The Importance Of Self Love

We live in a world where social media takes over our minds and what we see sometimes clouds our judgement of how we think we should look...

We live in a world where social media takes over our minds and what we see sometimes clouds our judgement of how we think we should look and even be. I find myself hearing other females and even myself sometimes finding something negative to say about themselves whether while taking a picture or even talking about what they wish they had appearance wise. But I'm here to tell you FUCK THAT! (And no don’t excuse my French) because social media and all of these IG models really screws up a of female's heads as far as how they thing they should look. These IG models they're confident and half of that shit fake so instead of wanting to be them or even look like them, start to have confidence in what you look like and who you are and your beauty will speak for itself. Let's just be honest we all have flaws, there's not one person in this world who is perfect so we need to accept our flaws and embrace the hell out of ourselves because at the end of the day we are all beautiful people. Let's take Beyoncé for an example, you think she don’t have flaws or insecurities? I bet she does but do we hear or see her voice that? NO! So why should we? There's one quote that sticks with me every day and its "Admire Someone's Beauty Without Questioning Your Own" I've realized that it's so important to love yourself first because at the end of the day, you have to look at yourself in the mirror and how you look isn't going anywhere. Unless you do something dramatic as plastic surgery to change that which is usually a sign of insecurity. So here are three reasons why I feel that self-love is important.

There's only one YOU
There's no one like you. Yeah you may have the same interest as someone else but at the end of the day that person is not you. You have great qualities, your beautiful, you may have accomplished things that no one else has or been places where people die to go and whether we can see them or not, they're there and that’s all you need to focus on. What people say and think about you does not matter. For some of us it takes patience to figure out what we love and what we're good at but trust me we are all good at something. Your mentality, your strength and courage set your apart from the rest. We all look different, think different and move different and that’s what you need to motivate you to realize that what makes you beautiful is YOU. You are not only your appearance.

Maintain Your Happiness
I guess this reason may piggy back off of my first reasoning but listen if you don’t love yourself to me it means that you are not happy. Actually, you can't be happy in life if you don’t love yourself. Love starts with you. Happiness starts with you. A smile means nothing if you're not actually happy. I've witnessed many people who I thought was so happy because of how they seemed so happy when a crowd is around but to end us realizing that they are not content with who they are because they don’t love themselves.

You Won't Be Able To Love Anyone Else
I'm just going to use myself as a prime example as to this reasoning. I thought I loved my ex right. Turns out I started to realize that I did not love and value myself as much as I thought I did so how could I have loved him. And Yea realized quick that that 4-letter word was just a word in that relationship. Like I've mentioned above love starts with you. If you don’t start to learn to love yourself and I mean everything about yourself then you can't possibly be in a relationship where you love that person because you don’t even understand the importance of loving yourself. Just ask yourself "How do I love him/her but I don’t love myself?" Now let me say I do believe it's possible for one to teach another how to love themselves more but it starts with the basics of loving you.

Once you take other people's opinions and thoughts out of this equation of life then you can focus on you and loving yourself more.

Hope you guys enjoyed this post. Let me know your thoughts below.

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  1. *picture me clapping* YOU GO GIRL! For the past year, I've been on a journey of learning how to love and accept myself. I was underweight and unhappy with myself. I was looking at all the perfect models wondering why I didn't have big breasts and a small waist. Then I said "You know what? I'm me and I need to love myself." Thank you for sharing your post. I really needed it today.

    1. thanks babes. Always remember that you are beautiful and perfect the way you are

  2. Thank you for this!! Self love is the best love. I’ve learned that I must love myself first to in return love someone else and also know how to be loved my someone else. Great post.

  3. "Don't change who you are .Be you and celebrate being different"
    I'm jxt fall in love with your words.

  4. Well said!!! I agree with all of these points. "Comparison is the thief of joy," as they say!

  5. F that is right . Social media just sometimes brings out all the insecurities . I try not to compare as people only put what's good online and not the ish that goes down in the back ground . sharing this to my fb page .

  6. Totally agree! And you should always be happy by yourself first before you will be able to be truly happy with a partner 👌🏻

  7. This is so perfect! Inspiring words for when a girl is feeling down in the dumps. Loved the realness - especially about social media making everyoneeee insecure!

  8. This is so inspirational! Thank you!

  9. I am so happy that you love and appreciate who you are!:) As I got older, I realized it is important to love yourself because at the end of the day, that is the person who will always be there day in & day out.

  10. Love this, just what I needed to hear this week! :)